tip of the
one of the hardest things to get used to when I started
this business (Adventure BootCamp/180 Degree Fitness)
back in 2007 was dealing with hate mail and haters from
time to time.
said it best when he coined: "There is only one way to
avoid criticism: do nothing, say nothing, and be nothing."
with the invention of the Internet people are much bolder
because they can hide behind their laptops and devices-
which gives them a free pass to say mean and hurtful things
that they would NEVER say to you in person.
received hate mail, petty threats, legal threats, and
even lost a few friends because of things I've written-but
I now know this is a direct reflection of how many people
I'm helping and serving
see when you do a great job people MIGHT pat you on the back...
they MIGHT tell a friend or two... and they MIGHT give
you some credit.
when you accidentally do something wrong people will gladly
jump on Facebook, Twitter, or reply to an email and shout
from the rooftop about what a JERK you are.
just the nature of the beast.
matter what type of good we try to do in this world some
people will hate us... will make fun of us... will gossip
about us... will backstab us.. will take money from us...
& even try to ruin our reputation
going to happen to ALL of us at one time or another. SO
PLEASE LISTEN UP! Here
is the #1 way to deal with HATERS... It's the story of the Eagle and the "Pesky
and Negative Mangy" Crows.
#1 hater is the Mangy Crow. Crows have a reputation for
getting together in groups of three and ganging up on the mighty Eagle by
attacking him from behind while flying.
listen closely to how the Eagle handles the attack...
Instead of fighting back, the Eagle simply flies higher
and higher until it reaches an elevation where the crows can
no longer fly. In other words, the Eagle "rises above"
is probably the best example in the world about how to
deal with people who criticize you or try to bring you
down. ANY time you find yourself under attack, you basically
have two ways you can look: ahead...or behind.
you look behind, all you'll see are the Mangy Crows pecking
at your tail while they drag you down to their level. This
will consume your time, your energy, & take you backwards
in life. But if you look ahead and soar higher than your
enemies, like the mighty Eagle, the pesky and negative
Mangy Crows will have no choice but to go find another Eagle to
since every single one of us will deal with enemies and
haters at some point during our lives, this is some of the best
long term advice you can get.
example, have you ever tried to start a diet and exercise
plan, only to have somebody in your close circle try to
drag you down to their level because they don't have the drive
or ambition to take care of themselves??
heard it all from friends and family... "You're no fun
you want to try a cookie? One won't hurt you."
eat that in front of Adrian or Kishara, they're health
a little bit won't hurt you." "Can't you just have some
fun." yadayadayada... NOISE! After all, misery loves
thing I figured out a long time ago is that people always
want to see you do good in life... They just don't want
you to do "better" than them. I also use a rule I call "The 24
Hour Pause Button"... whenever I get hate mail or somebody
does something nasty behind my back, I always wait 24
hours before I react or respond. Why?
Because the emotion of being hurt and taking it personal
will diminish dramatically in 24 hours. This
gives you time to calm down so your response will be much
more rational and logical-instead of emotional.
nothing is first as it appears anyway. Giving it a day
or two before reacting will give you much greater perspective
and discernment. Remember, H.A.T.E.R. is just an acronym
Anger Towards Everyone Reaching Success. :-) Don't ever,
EVER give up your dreams and fitness goals-no matter
how much you're criticized. Rise above the haters, keep
going strong & shake it off ;)
friend and coach,
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